Jake PopistThe idea of a threesome might seem taboo to many couples, but threesomes aren’t just for men to fantasize about anymore. A lot of women have started jumping on the bandwagon to spice up their love lives after realizing threesomes can work for them, too. The idea of exploring a new side of your sexual personality is always exciting, especially if it’s something that turns you on. Threesomes can be for committed couples who are looking to add a third for their first time, friends who are looking to experience a fun night one time, or even a couple looking to add the elusive “unicorn” into their bed on a regular basis. Here are some tips on how to move forward with your plan for a threesome. It may be easier than you think.
Be open.
The idea of trying new things is always smart for your sex life. Many mainstream options are sex toys like a vibrator, porn videos, or a cock ring. But have you thought about trying a high-quality premium sex doll? The idea of sex dolls can be a bit scary for a beginner, given that they often come with a bad wrap. But if you do your research you’ll find many are custom made for your wants and needs. You can pick everything from skin tone, hair color, and size of the breasts or penis. These more expensive dolls are no ordinary mannequins, giving you the chance to add a bit of excitement to a boring bedroom routine. Plus, it’s a different way to “add a third” if you’re not quite ready to bring a living, breathing person into the bedroom.
Make sure everyone is comfortable and included.
While many who have participated in a threesome have known their third partner, others chose to select a relative stranger for a one night stand. No matter which option you choose, you want to make sure everyone is feeling comfortable and connected. You also want to make sure you are all on the same page, sexually. Make an effort to ensure all participants are getting equal pleasure and time. Remember, no one likes being picked last in gym class.
Set boundaries.
This tip particularly applies to the couples that are in committed relationships. Before the windows steam up and the action goes down, you need to think about and openly discuss your boundaries before sex takes place. By creating boundaries, you can help thwart possible regrets that could arise after playtime has ended. You may get so caught up in the moment that you want to toss a rule out the window, but don’t. Even the use of a safe word could be helpful if the trust starts to get out of hand.
Decide whether you should be drinking.
Ultimately, the choice is up to you. Some feel the need to get lubricated before sexual activity goes down, while others prefer to be stone-cold sober. But remember, the novelty of the affair might wear off if you become too intoxicated, so keep your wits about you. Drinking too much can also make it harder for penises to get erect and can cause the vagina to dry up. A small amount of indulgence is fine since it can take the edge off, but you don’t want to ruin your evening before the fun has even started.
Consider the green-eyed monster.
Everyone meets the little monster at one time or another. Whether you’re polyamorous or prefer monogamy, there will be moments in relationships where you feel jealous. Choosing to have a threesome will teach you a lot about how you handle sexual envy. Some participants are absolutely unphased. But if the situation becomes a bit too much, try to find a way to kindly let the others involved know. If you can, also try to remember that it’s a group activity that’s meant to enhance everyone’s sex life. When you’re feeling jealous, keeping that in mind may help talk you down from the ledge. Try to stay focused on your partner’s pleasure and experience.
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